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Sunday Funday Washday… NOT

So I surprised myself today. I completed wash day in record time. Usually by this point of wash day, I’d still be in my bathroom detangling, moisturizing and twisting my hair. Mind you that’s if I start the process of wash day at a decent hour i.e. noon. If I start any later then I might as well not even begin wash day because I wouldn’t get done until well after 23:30. that’s 11:30PM for you non military or broadcast media types.

But today was different somehow. I did indeed start my wash day routine around 12:30 this afternoon. The Houston Texans offense was playing like they ain’t never played a lick of football before and rather than sitting in the kitchen yelling at the TV I decided to do my hair.

So first, I clarified my hair with apple cider vinegar, distiller water and coconut oil. This helps to get rid of a month’s worth of product build up as well as start the process of moisturizing my hair. Some naturals let the ACV H2O mixture sit on their hair for a few minutes. I can’t get past the smell even though today I noticed the smell wasn’t too incredibly bad.

Next, I deep conditioned my hair with a packet of Creme of Nature Argon Oil Intense Conditioning Treatment. I absolutely love this product. Not only does it make my hair soft and shiny but I love how easy it is to detangle Luquisha with this product. Since I didn’t have a lot left over from the last time I deep conditioned my hair plz don’t ask me when that was I had to get creative because I have an over abundance of thick hair. So to make this product stretch, I added a few drops of Garnier Fructis Marvelous Oils to each palm full of the deep conditioner. Once I finish working the product through my hair and pinned the sections, I put on two plastic shower caps and a bonnet and let the deep conditioner stay on my hair until the middle of the second quarter of the Broncos/Dolphins game.

Next, I thoroughly rinsed out the deep conditioner and began the process of washing my hair. I bought a bottle of SheaMoisture Baby shampoo thinking it might be good for Luquisha since she is at a stage where she is getting tired of the shampoo I’m currently using. Yeah no! It made my hair feel so rough and rubbery. That was a waste of time for Luquisha and I. But it will not go to waste because I’m going to get it to boo’s sister to use on my nephew’s hair. Talk about a head full of soft curls. Thankfully, my Herbal Essences Hello Hydration conditioner reversed the rough rubbery feel caused by the baby shampoo. I had to drown Luquisha in conditioner but at least she didn’t feel like wet rubber anymore.

Okay home stretch! Are you tired yet?! cuz I am!!


So at this point, I’m outta the shower and drying off but I didn’t towel or t-shirt dry my hair. Since my hair is so thick, it tends to dry out faster when I towel or t-shirt dry my hair. Plus I want to be able to work the Miss Jessie’s Leave in Condish through Luquisha easily and quickly because I want my hair to still be fully damp when I layer the SheaMoisture or Carol’s Daughter hair milk for added moisture.

As I said, on a normal wash day occasion I would still be twisting and pinning my twists at this very moment instead of blogging about it. So today, I decided to twist my hair into chunky Bantu knots. Not only did this allow me to get done HOURS faster a whole four hours to be exact but the Bantu knots should stretch my hair out pretty well. Unless it’s still damp when I wake up in the more which then shrinkage that sounds so dirty will take over and there will be nothing I can do but rock a cute fro with a bow.

So there’s my wash day. How did your wash day go my naptural bruhs and sistas?!

Thanks for reading…

The Southern Yankee

Don’t Touch My Hair Hoe


I absolutely positively LOVE watching them dance together. Not only are they provocative dancers but look how tall them heels is! yes I know that’s not proper English i needed to show em-pha-sis!!

you better work

I can’t even walk in a straight line in heels and these perras are werkin it like they were born in a pair of six inch stilettos!! yaaaaaaaas I can be a hateful bitch at times! Don’t act like you not!

Of course I can’t be too hateful because this is their God given talent and honestly, I applaud anyone who follows their heart and dreams to the fullest.

But I’m not writing this post purely for the sake of showing off their talent. I wanted to talk about the title of the song. Don’t Touch My Hair Hoe by Brooke Candy.

This has never happened to me before so I’m not going to insert first hand experience into this post. But I can say I would imagine having mixed feelings if I were approached with “Can I touch your hair?” Lemme explain…

I remember one Saturday, maybe two years ago when I was still wandering through the dark side, one of the Latina beauticians at the JcPenny Salon I get my hair done came over to talk to my beautician, Miss May. She was admiring my hair color. She went on and on and on and on about my hair color. Then she walked behind my beautician and touched part of my hair. Miss May and I had two totally different reactions. Miss May was visibly bothered for me and I was not. Again lemme explain.

If you know anything about Hispanic culture, then you would know that when someone gives you an intense gaze or goes on and on in an admiring type of way without touching you or the object of their admiration then they can give you mal de ojo which means evil eye. this is NOT to be confused with the side eye. Other cultures have a different name for the evil eye but the meaning is virtually the same. I only have experience with mal de ojo in the Hispanic culture because my boo is Mexican and the majority of my friends are of Latino descent.

So I took her touching my hair to me felt like a term of endearment because she didn’t mean anything malicious which I had to quickly explain to Miss May. If I didn’t, she surely was about to go left on her co worker. So that sparked a conversation between Miss May and I about how blacks in particular do not like it when people outright try or ask to touch our hair. Which is completely understandable because unless a person is a friend or family member then I really don’t like it when people try to get all up in my koolaid either.

On the flip side of this, some people act like kinky/curly/coily hair is a new fangled concept. Like having a different hair texture is a new fashion trend instead of wanting to cease and desist putting harmful chemicals in one’s hair. But that seems to simple to understand and sometimes it seems people actually like making life harder than it really has to be.

I think what it comes down to is people knowing boundaries and learning to think before they speak. Speaking of boundaries and touching a natural’s fro, check out the below video from one of my favorite YouTube vlogger.

Thanks for reading…


The Southern Yankee

To Color or Not to Color

So over the last few weeks, I’ve been toying with the idea of coloring my hair. GASP! I’ve never in my life wanted to color my hair until now. Why? I have no earthly clue.

My natural hair color is a color most black women pay a hefty chunk of change to achieve in the salon or at home. It isn’t a very common color for a black woman and I’m truly proud of that. My hair color as well as the many other quirky facts about me, make me unique. But I want to change that for some crazy cracked out reason.

I blame Pinterest for putting all these damn ideas in my head! Yeah it’s Pinterest’s fault that sooooooo many color treated naturalistas are featured in the pins. Yep! That’s my story and I’m sticking to it… Even it is a tab okay maybe a lot faulty. WHATEVER MAN!

Yes I’m done now. Sorry… Back to the post. o_O

So the idea of color treated hair has been meandering about in my mind. I’ve been looking at Pinterest for weeks to see if I can find a color that would be suitable for my complexion. That will bring out my dark colored eyes. That won’t damage the integrity of my hair which I believe is what worries me the most. I also want a color that will not be hard to maintain. Cuz we all know that I. Am. Lazy!

Of course, I wouldn’t do anything without getting the opinion of Miss May because well she knows how extremely lazy I am about my hair. Plus she might just be able to help me decide which hair color would suit everything that is me and my laziness. Hell she might just tell me to lighten my current color and call it a day which would not be entirely a bad thing.

I suppose I just want my hair to POP and be full of kinky/coily/curly life. Stay tuned guys. I won’t make a decision until after the New Year.


Thanks for reading…


The Southern Yankee


Luquisha Renáe: 18 Months Post Big Chop

So last week officially marked eighteen months since Luquisha Renáe and I embarked on our second tour of being natural. Well technically I started transitioning to natural in January of last year. Hmmm well now that I really think about it, I suppose I started transitioning before January 2013 because it had been at least since October 2012 since my last relaxer. So we’ll just say it’s been a journey for Luquisha and I. A very long journey.

At this point of my journey, my bathroom counter looks like a beauty supply store. I have so many different brands and types of product. Do I use all of it? Not really. Sometimes it just depends on what I am trying to do with Luquisha. Most times I wear her out and proud with a decorative clip, a headband, a satin scarf, side pinup or in a frohawk.

I use a SheaMoisture Coconut & Hibiscus Milk, distilled water and coconut oil mixture for everyday re-hydrating. Since Luquisha is so dern thick she dries out pretty fast. So when I wake up in the morning, I spray the mixture on my hair and work it through. Sometimes I concentrate on the kitchen as this area tends to be the most dry.

I have a jar of Cantu Shea Butter Coconut Curling Cream for not only moisturizing Luquisha but I usually layer it with Miss Jessie’s Leave in Condish when I’m doing a twist out; which is becoming more infrequent. I can’t even express to you how much I love this stuff. Partially because it smells like a piña colada but also because it makes Luquisha feel so soft when I undo my twists.

Speaking of the Miss Jessie’s Leave in Condish, this leave in conditioner is a ma zing! I really love the slip it provides when I finger detangle my hair. Which let me just pause for a second to say I can finally finger detangle through all of my hair. It’s something I really haven’t been able to do at any point of my natural journey. For added slip, I add maybe a quarter to fifty cent piece size of Garnier Fructis Marvelous Oil Frizz Defy to my hair while my hair is dripping wet so I can distribute the oil evenly. If needed, I’ll add more.

Wash Day
Wash day is becoming more and more of a ginormous production. By hair typing standards I would say Luquisha is a combination of 4b/4c hair. In some parts, she can be really springy in the front and in the kitchen area. She’s probably the thickest around the sides by my ears and in the crown area. With all of this said, it takes at least four maybe six hours do completely wash, condition and protective style Luquisha on wash day.

Are you tired yet because I am!

At the moment, I am using SheaMoisture Coconut & Hibiscus shampoo to cleanse and Herbal Essence Hello Hydration for conditioning. I bought the Coconut & Hibiscus conditioner but um it’s extremely too light to use while in the shower. So I’ve been using it as a pre-poo detangler along with the Garnier Fructis Marvelous Oil Frizz Defy for slip.

The Coconut & Hibiscus shampoo was great at first but I can already tell Luquisha is growing tired of it. She can be rather temperamental when it comes to shampoo. This will make four maybe five shampoos I’ve used on Luquisha since 2006. I used to wash her with L’Oréal EverCurl before switching to SheaMoisture. Miss May (my beautician) suggested I use more products geared towards natural hair so I said goodbye to L’Oréal.

Hello Hydration has been a staple in my wash day regimen for many many many moons. I have to say this is the best middle of the row conditioner I’ve ever used on Luquisha. It’s thick and heavy (at least to me), coats my hair nicely and smells great. What I also like about Hello Hydration is that it provides a lot of slip. Luquisha is a pain to detangle especially if I haven’t bothered to detangle in a long while. So I’ll definitely keep this in my wash day repertoire.

Time to Try New Products
So there are a couple of products I would like to try on Luquisha. I bought a gel by Curls about two weeks ago. I’ll probably try it this weekend.

My little sister uses As I Am on my beautiful little naturalista nieces. I saw that this brand has a conditioning co wash cleanser which is something that is not a part of my regular routine.

I have a number of trial size products by Miss Jessie’s that I need to try before making the decision to purchase the full size bottle.

I have the Mimosa Pomade by Carol’s Daughter in my bathroom at the moment but I’ve never tried anything else. I eye the Black Vanilla product line every time I’m in Target.

Stay tuned for my length check which will more than likely be in December when I get my hair flat ironed for the first time in a year or two.

Thanks for reading…


The Southern Yankee

Sunday Funday Wash Day… Um NOT!

Sundays are usually when I get off my lazy behind to give Luquisha Renáe a good ole washing. Mind you that’s usually. There are weeks when I don’t want to be bothered with washing Luquisha because it’s so time consuming. I figure the longer she get the longer it’ll take to wash and detangle.

dear gawd why?!?! sad face sad face

Please don’t mind my whining in this post. I do love being natural and being able to rock a bitchin’ fro… I just hate the process of getting to that awesome bad ass fro.

Take today for example. I started pre-pooing my hair around 13:30. I dry divided my hair into 15 sections. Once I finished dividing my hair, I proceeded to apply Garnier Fructis Marvelous Oil Deep Nourish, a coconut and jojoba oil and water mixture and SheaMoisture Coconut & Hibiscus Conditioner to each individual section. Once each section was fully saturated with the above, I two strand twisted each section or a divided section and pinned them into Bantu knots. All of that took three hours and fifteen minutes which was about 16:45.

I ran around the house for a few minutes to let my hair set and soak up the pre-poo. Then I took out the bobby pins so I could take a shower which always takes thirty minutes. I’m just good like that.

I partially dried maybe 80% my hair with a towel and put a palm full of Miss Jessie’s Leave In Condish. I sat in my room for a bit then applied another palm full of the Leave In Condish. By this time it was 18:10. Since I needed to go buy gas for my truck, I put Luquisha in a plastic shower cap, put my new beanie over the shower cap and went to the Shell station up the street.

lol I know you are prolly getting bored with this long winded narrative but it’s to prove a point. Work wit me!!

I went and came back. My brother and his youngest were walking in the house so of course I played with my hunky little nephew for a little bit; who was wearing his new JJ Swatt jersey!!! They didn’t stay long so that maybe delayed me ten more minutes.

I think I started the final process of auctioning my hair and applying SheaMoisture Coconut & Hibiscus Milk and Cantu Shea Butter Coconut Curling Cream can y’all tell I love products with coconut?! to my hair and two strand twists with Bantu knots. Towards the end of it all, I got really lazy and my hair was getting really dry and twisted the remaining hair in Bantu knots only. I finally finished my hair at 20:54.

20 fucking 54!!!

Sigh yes I know Luquisha will thank me later for taking almost a full work day to wash, detangle and protective style her but damn!!! It never ceases to amaze me what naturals go through just to maintain their kinky/curly/coily manes. I’ve mentioned before that I’m extremely lazy when it comes to Luquisha. I’ve always had a less is more attitude when it comes to hair and beauty even though I’ve mildly aspired to be less lazy. by less I mean a whopping 2% less lol

Okay okay that concludes my wash day rant. I promise these will be kept to a maximum of four a year.

Thanks for reading…

The Southern Yankee