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I’ve been trying to get the words out about this case and decision for days now. And Hailey has said everything and posed all my questions and somehow gave me something else to think about. Thanks for writing this piece.

The Southern Yankee


The holiday season is not exactly my favorite time of the year.

I could list a million and one reasons why I really don’t care for the holiday season; however, that would overshadow the reasons why I’m thankful to even be able to celebrate said holiday season that I dislike so much.

First of all, I’m alive and well. There are a couple of instances in my life that could have been the end of my life completely.

Secondly, boo and I have a roof over our heads, food in our tummies, money to pay bills, vehicles that function properly, a bed to sleep in and jobs that keep us from worrying where our next paycheck and meal will come from.

Thirdly, I have my family. Maybe not all of my family like I so desperately need and want but I do have friends who keep grounded when I get outta line.

And lastly, I have my God because without him or her, I would not have the above three things. We may not have the best of relationships but I know where I stand with him or her. I know that my life would be different if I failed to acknowledge there is something bigger and greater than I and everyone else in the world.

I think sometimes we take for granted the people, places and things we already have in our lives. I don’t necessarily have to have the latest and greatest in technology or in electronics or in fashion. I don’t have to attend the most expensive school even though I did for undergrad but that’s another post to prove my worth to a company or even my current manager.

Life isn’t about having everything. Doin it up big and bad ass. Being envied to no end.

Life is about being who you are for the sake of existing. For making the best of what you have but not letting it dictate your present or future. It’s about being thankful for what you got, what you’re about to get and for what you could have if you just work a little harder and smarter.

I don’t mean to be preachy. I’ve just learned that instead of fretting the small things… I should appreciate and be grateful they exist.

Happy Thanksgiving Week and Holidays to you and yours!

Thanks for reading…


The Southern Yankee

Sunday Funday Washday… NOT

So I surprised myself today. I completed wash day in record time. Usually by this point of wash day, I’d still be in my bathroom detangling, moisturizing and twisting my hair. Mind you that’s if I start the process of wash day at a decent hour i.e. noon. If I start any later then I might as well not even begin wash day because I wouldn’t get done until well after 23:30. that’s 11:30PM for you non military or broadcast media types.

But today was different somehow. I did indeed start my wash day routine around 12:30 this afternoon. The Houston Texans offense was playing like they ain’t never played a lick of football before and rather than sitting in the kitchen yelling at the TV I decided to do my hair.

So first, I clarified my hair with apple cider vinegar, distiller water and coconut oil. This helps to get rid of a month’s worth of product build up as well as start the process of moisturizing my hair. Some naturals let the ACV H2O mixture sit on their hair for a few minutes. I can’t get past the smell even though today I noticed the smell wasn’t too incredibly bad.

Next, I deep conditioned my hair with a packet of Creme of Nature Argon Oil Intense Conditioning Treatment. I absolutely love this product. Not only does it make my hair soft and shiny but I love how easy it is to detangle Luquisha with this product. Since I didn’t have a lot left over from the last time I deep conditioned my hair plz don’t ask me when that was I had to get creative because I have an over abundance of thick hair. So to make this product stretch, I added a few drops of Garnier Fructis Marvelous Oils to each palm full of the deep conditioner. Once I finish working the product through my hair and pinned the sections, I put on two plastic shower caps and a bonnet and let the deep conditioner stay on my hair until the middle of the second quarter of the Broncos/Dolphins game.

Next, I thoroughly rinsed out the deep conditioner and began the process of washing my hair. I bought a bottle of SheaMoisture Baby shampoo thinking it might be good for Luquisha since she is at a stage where she is getting tired of the shampoo I’m currently using. Yeah no! It made my hair feel so rough and rubbery. That was a waste of time for Luquisha and I. But it will not go to waste because I’m going to get it to boo’s sister to use on my nephew’s hair. Talk about a head full of soft curls. Thankfully, my Herbal Essences Hello Hydration conditioner reversed the rough rubbery feel caused by the baby shampoo. I had to drown Luquisha in conditioner but at least she didn’t feel like wet rubber anymore.

Okay home stretch! Are you tired yet?! cuz I am!!


So at this point, I’m outta the shower and drying off but I didn’t towel or t-shirt dry my hair. Since my hair is so thick, it tends to dry out faster when I towel or t-shirt dry my hair. Plus I want to be able to work the Miss Jessie’s Leave in Condish through Luquisha easily and quickly because I want my hair to still be fully damp when I layer the SheaMoisture or Carol’s Daughter hair milk for added moisture.

As I said, on a normal wash day occasion I would still be twisting and pinning my twists at this very moment instead of blogging about it. So today, I decided to twist my hair into chunky Bantu knots. Not only did this allow me to get done HOURS faster a whole four hours to be exact but the Bantu knots should stretch my hair out pretty well. Unless it’s still damp when I wake up in the more which then shrinkage that sounds so dirty will take over and there will be nothing I can do but rock a cute fro with a bow.

So there’s my wash day. How did your wash day go my naptural bruhs and sistas?!

Thanks for reading…

The Southern Yankee

Any Given Weekend…

On any given weekend, especially in the fall, I can be found screaming at my TV. I tend to scare people because I scream and curse so loudly! I’m not allowed to go in public during my favorite time of the year because I’d be given the side eye or told to shut the fuck up.

What am I talking about?! SPORTS!!! I’m a die hard scream and curse talk about how bad you’re playing home and away teams fan gurl!! Don’t call, text or email me during any game because guess what?! I will lash out in the worse possible way. It’s not because I don’t love or like person on the other end. It’s because like most sports fans I don’t like TO BE DISTURBED!!!

I’m sitting here in front of my TV screaming because my Baylor Bears are on the verge of beating some Ok State ass!!! But they playing sloppy as fuck!!! Please don’t get me started

Anyway… I said that to say this…. This weekend blogging thang is rough yo!!

Thanks for reading…

The Southern Yankee